Barbi Cottingham went joyfully home on March 18th, at 11:50 p.m.
in the presence of her loving family.
A memorial service celebrating her life and faith of
will be held on Sunday, March 30th, 2:00 pm, at
Christ United Methodist Church
3515 South Harvard Ave.
Tulsa, OK 74135
The service will last approximately 90 minutes, and all guests are invited to a post-service reception with Barbi's family immediately following. We look forward to seeing everyone.
This was Barbi's song and mantra. Enjoy. . .
We want to thank you so much for your patience, prayer, and loving support while waiting for these updates. Much has happened in the last few weeks, but Barbi and her family wanted to hold any further communications until they could determine what really should be said.
As Barbi stated through our last update in February, she faced a decision of whether to attempt another type of chemo treatment the following week.
But though she was willing to go through most anything to get well, she continued to decline even while making that decision. Her body could no longer tolerate the strong chemotherapy, and the tumors were simply too fast and aggressive to counteract.
After another short hospitalization, Barbi's wonderful oncologist Dr. Phillips decided on February 24 to return Barbi home for hospice care, and to end all treatments and infusions. The Cottingham family has been waiting, not wanting to make any announcement too soon. Barbi has been incredibly optimistic through everything, and we have all hoped, and her family wanted to respect her desires and see how things were to unfold.
From her daughter, Amy:
"With the cessation of treatments, the disease has progressed far more rapidly than we ever expected. Mom is no longer able to receive visitors or phone calls.
"Since Mom was diagnosed with lymphoma cancer, this past year of treatment has been very hard on her. She has fought bravely, surrendered to the process more and more over time, and found great comfort and encouragement in every email, text, call, and visit she received from students, colleagues and friends. Through all the chemo, through complications from chemo, through two very traumatic infections, through many trips to the doctor and infusion center, through long periods of recovery and waiting, she has thought of her students and of you, her dear friends and colleagues, and soaked up any and all communications from you."
To you, dear friends, we cannot express enough our gratitude on Barbi's behalf for your gifts, prayers, support, and inspiration that allowed her to fight this battle for the past year. We will be posting more information to update you on Barbi's status online at www.barbi.org and at her benefit website www.barbicottinghambenefit.org. If you are subscribed to her "Love for Barbi" Facebook page, you will receive notifications immediately as they are posted.
If you would like to write a letter letting Barbi know what she has meant to you, how she has contributed to the Tulsa community, what she has meant to you as a friend or musical colleague, and how she has affected your life in any way, please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org or post a message at www.barbi.org.
Previous updates. . .
View Barbi's testimony on being thankful, November 24, 2013.
View the performances of The Barbi Cottingham Benefit Concert, April 26, 2013.